Even when your loved one really wants to change, being a successful support person isn’t easy. You need to think about your wellbeing, and the wellbeing of others in your household. Taking care of your basic needs can give you a solid foundation for dealing with the tougher stuff.
There are services where your loved one can stay for a weekend, or where someone will come and stay in your home so you can take a break. You will do a better job of caring for your loved one if you take care of yourself.
Having a routine means eating regular meals, getting exercise and trying to have fixed sleep pattern.
Make time for hobbies, sports and spending time with friends. These could give you something to look forward to and help keep your own support networks strong.
If things get too difficult, consider respite care.
The Alcohol and Drug Helpline has trained counsellors available 24 hours a day. Counsellors provide free advice and guidance to people impacted by alcohol or other drugs. This includes tips for looking after yourself.
Having someone to talk to can be very helpful when you are supporting a loved-one.
Al-Anon is one example of a support group for spouses, families or friends of people using drugs in a harmful way. Regular meetings are held throughout the country. You can listen to others and, when you’re ready, talk about your experience. The support and understanding of other people in your situation can be very healing.
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